How to make profoundly good decisions? For sure, you have made hundreds decisions so far. You have reached many goals. Maybe, there are some decisions you regret. There are also decisions that you would never change. And there are some decisions that you still explain, rationalize. You emphasize and claim that you learnt a lot, that the decision was ok, that it was a valuable experience. But, somewhere deep inside, you know you convince yourself and feel something like internal embarrassment .
Is all above your case as well? So, what does the soul have to do with it? Many decisions we make, especially in business, we make on intelectual and analyticall bases. We may call them rational decisions. We calculate, rate, plan, consider „fors” and „against”. We choose studies that give well paid jobs – it is more rational rather than follow the passion. We choose „secure” corporation life.
Soul based decisions sound like magic swears. It may be so. But I do insist on conviction that only soul based decisions are effective in the final result.
Well, but what does it really mean – SOUL BASED DECISION?
And what if you do not belief in soul?
That is ok. You may call it intuition, good feeling, the sixth sense.
I will submitt my private point of view.
What is soul based decision, and how to recognize it?
I have recently made short analysis of my decisions.
The decisions that I consider to be SOUL BASED DECISIONS.
What are the criteria, how they are connected, what they have in common.
1. They were a kind of “enlightment”. Something pushed me towards them irrevocably.
2. If you asked me – „ Would you do it the same way again?”, my answer is – YEEEES, the same way.
3. I did not walk around and ask others,I did not acknowledge my decision with other people.
4. I did not have to do a long list of „fors and againsts”.
5. I was calm and sure ( there was no fear about the future, there was no „wow, wow, wow” optimism).Just sure and calm.
6. I was accompanied by such feelings like release, calm, fullness, certainty of what I do.
7. Trust and letting go. I was free from thinking about scenarios, more or less real options, strict results. I was free form doubts – what if?
8 . I did not calculate if it brings benefits, if it is safe, or what will the other say.
Sometimes the idea/ decision comes quickly, you just know. But you are under pressure, feel guilty – if you make the decision, you do not listen to your feelings. You even try to neglect it, and push it away. But it is still over there.
Here are 3 of my decisions.
When I was 27 years old ( 20 years ago I decided to become business trainer. 20 years ago. Those days it was new profession. I was so sure of it. I did not ask whether I have skills and competences to do it. I did not wonder whether it was worth my effort and changes. I did not considered whether it was better to work further on as sales manager. I did not hesitate. I knew it . That is all. Of course – I took actions. I looked for mentors, for new training companies. And good people and circumstances appeared around me. After 1 year I ran my first classes with Unilever sales force. :).
Decision about my divorce. Then and now I consider this decision as the most honest, sincere. Honest to my me and my ex- husband. It brought us release, good and clear relationships after the divorce. The decision was born practically after 3 years of my marriage. I did not love him, nor he did. We were together because we both felt guilty to hurt other side, because it was against rules and family. But it was in our minds.
It was about telling one man that he is love of my life. I told that 3 times. Today – we are NOT together, and we have never been. If I was to do it once again? No doubt. I would do it once more the same way I did. Because it was and still is real and sincere, from the very depth of my heart. No matter how it is the situation today.
All those decisions are connected with feelings: I DID WELL, release, calm, peace of mind, coherence, sincerity. This is how I recognize them. And what about you?
Questions you may ask to yourself to help recognize your SOUL BASED DECISIONS.
1. How did the idea come to my mind? Was it some long lasting process, based on analyzing and calculating various options or was it rather like light spark?
2. What was your feeling when it came to you?
3. Did you ask other people if do it or not? Did you change your decision under their opinions and points of view?
4. Did you do a long list ‘fors and against” , and you are still not clear which priorities to take?
5. What are your feelings when you think about the decision?
6. IS IT ME, my choice is me in my essence?
If you are just in the state that some idea/ draft of decision ( of any kind- proffesional, private), has come to you, do not push it away.
• Face it.
• Call it by name. Call it, even if it is now far away of what you do, where you are in your life.
• Sit in calm place.
• And ask 1 simple question to yourself: ” How do I feel when the decision has been made?”.
• And feel your feelings.